Half of our misery comes from the way we talk to ourselves. Social media has opened more platforms for us to express our emotions. Human brain, scientifically speaking, is programmed in a way to see negatively. So our brain has a bias towards negativity. Therefore majority of the information we absorb virtually or in reality is the negative ones, which confirms our fear, resonates with our doubt and thereby strengthens such emotions. We rarely agree to positive talks thinking what it will change, recalling all the past experiences where only once or twice in life we tried to stay positive and it didnt work. We forget the childhood times when we were always in the expectancy mode and we received it.

But with new research its proven that once we are aware of our thinking patterns we can change them. So as we are aware now that our brain is negatively biased, next time it will be easier for you to spot the negative thought and then you can replace it with a positive thought. And the way we talk to ourselves matters.

Your life will be lot easier if you just change the filter with which you see the world. You can be trying to succeed every year with more hard work but it will not bring any real change until and unless you start seeing everything positively. There is no loss in trying, but i can assure you that trying to find good in every situation will shift your perspective towards the bright side of the life and after sometime all of a sudden you will feel that everything in your life is so good. And maybe that time you will come back to this post and realise good was always there.

I hope this post changes something in you for good 🌼✨❤️

Its the most awaited day of sia’s life. In her whole life of 22 years, she had one and only one goal. She had given everything to it. She has sacrificed so many things in her life not that she didn’t have enough time to party like others , but just so that she could be in the discipline zone. Now being a girl like her who is so beautiful in the most average way its not uncommon to get lots of attention and yet not so much attention. She has brown eyes, which can be clearly seen in a bright day, brown hair which can sometimes be confused for black (typical indian eyes and hair) . She has the most beautiful smile which makes her look so innocent as if she doesn’t know about the cunning world , its like she has been raised by angels and fairies which is justified by the elegant clothes she wears. Always light colors…if its summer she will give the vibe of cool breeze with her hair falling on her face and brown lips with her knee length dresses. And if its winter she gives warm vibes, in her biege, brown,white colored clothes with lips and cheeks perfect pink. Maybe she is a makeup expert . Who knows ! Anyways she is having the sinking feeling in her stomach or sometimes it feels like she is skipping heart beat, as a perfect girl she is, she has learnt very well to control her emotions. She knows its the big day anxiety which is getting to her. She has decided to keep herself busy so that she dont feel these emotions. Anyways its about time that her whole life will change either for worse or for good. Her phone rings, its a call from her roomie isha. Sia is definitely not in the mood to have any conversation with anyone. Suddenly sia remembers her , the most beautiful face she has ever seen and it felt sudden pain in her heart, her eyes got teary and she realised if things doesn’t go well she wont be able to make that beautiful face proud. More than anything else in the world right now she wants is to make that beautiful face smile. And make everyone realise that , that face is the one who is responsible for the……and again her phone rings . She realised that tears are running down her cheeks, she wipes them fastly and hopes that no one has seen it. She looks across the table and her seniors are discussing and speculating. Someone from behind ask her to go home now, as its a big day. People generally take a day off but everyone is wondering why she came to the office.

Well let’s start with things which no ones talks about openly !! Reality behind our answers of “i’m fine, i’m good, yeah ! Everything is fantastic etc etc ” whenever someones asks how we are. As far as i can remember i was born in this, in this world where the answer of “How are you” is taught in school and that is “I am fine, thank you “. So its not our fault that we are programmed to say that answer and not a word more than that.

As we all know past few days have been tough, what not we have realized in this lockdown period ! Realization that we took almost everything for granted. Many of us are doing great even in this quarantine like doing new activities, bonding with fam. Its good, it actually makes me happy to see that people have time for themselves, for their families now, they are doing what they always wanted to do, singing, dancing, cooking, reading, talking, writing, smiling, laughing, praying, thanking, showing kindness. But their are some people like me who thinks that we are not doing what we are supposed to do and getting negative day by day. So those included in the above list can stop reading now and the ones like me can continue reading this.

Now when we have all the time we always wanted, our mind is simply not letting us to enjoy it. We are over stressed, right?? Its all about how we think, what our thoughts are. As soon as we are able to control it we can give them right direction. Whenever you have that stressful thought, just think from where it is coming, what are the roots and why it is there. And once you know the reason , try to change it. Remember whatever we are doing including our jobs, studies, family friends and all our daily activities- they all are a part of how we shape our life. Remember just a PART. So if we don’t perform one part right it doesn’t destroy our whole Life. How much time we give to one part, how much we mess it up, it will never change the fact that it is only a PART and the not the whole LIFE. And their part like relationships with our parents, spouses, friends, brothers and sisters , they all are a gift to us from God. They are there so that our life is easier, so that we can enjoy our life and nothing to worry about it. Even if we mess with our studies, jobs, health, sleep- meal and all schedules, these relationships will always be there. So do not overthink when it comes to thosee relations and rest is only a part of our life even if we don’t do it properly it will always be a part which cannot destroy our whole life.

For all the negative thoughts :-

If you are not performing good, start all over again and people only fail when they stop trying :-

Read this twice:-

And i believe there’s someone looking after all of us :-

Thank you!!

So now, we all are living in that era where changing ourselves in negative way from a negative experience is the trend.

Hey, why are you like this? Rude, depressed, where you think cheating on someone is alright, we must lie, we shouldn’t cry in front of others, we shouldn’t show them our weakness etc etc etc etc and what not. Someone did something wrong to you, so you changed yourself and now you are doing the same thing to others or you closed your door so no one can enter. Why?? Why are you continuing this chain, why you just can’t break it. It is easy, trust me.

See, we all go through these experiences. The negatives ones, where someone trys to degrade us, someone keeps poiting out our weakness, someone is jealous of us for no reason 😂, someone behaves with us wrongly, someone trys to cheat us.

And when this happens, what we do?? Think and analyse.

We stop talking to them, we keep thinking about why would they say this, why would they do this to me, okay from now on i will not be transparent, let me get a chance to point out their weakness and then they will realise, let me cheat them too or i will not be serious because everyone is looking out for temporary things. If i can’t do this then i will not talk to anyone at all, i don’t want to go through this again. And they did this to me okay, i will do the same to them.

Do you have any idea, how much time and energy is wasted here. Did you notice how we became the part of this chain ??

And now this chain has become SO strong that you are unable to understand all the above paras, still you think its okay, that’s how the world is. NO, THIS IS NOT HOW THE WORLD IS. This is how we are creating the world by accepting wrong behaviors and becoming a part of this chain.

We all have flaws, we all cry, we all have been mistreated, we all get sad on some days without any reason. And it’s cool to accept it, and drinking smoking,wearing makeup, bullying etc is NOT cool.

Below are the two very simple conversations where the chain is broken-

They- hey you don’t drink, why?? Everyone does. You must try all the things in your life, we live in 21st century everyone drinks here.

Chain- ohh, okay.

Breakers of chain- NO, i don’t feel like doing it and i will not do it. How about talking, having real meaningful conversations. We don’t do it anymore in 21st century. We are busy spending our weekends on doing things which we can later upload on social media.

Them- You are an idiot, this is how the world is, you shouldn’t be so nice, don’t trust people easily. How can you not see how bad people are.

Chain- yes. I will keep that in mind from now onwards.

Breakers of chain -hey hey !! Its good that you can see nice thing in others and you trust it. And if it backfires that doesn’t mean you should stop doing it. It’s totally okay to be nice Don’t change yourself ever. We need people like you.

These are the lines which my friend told me

Makini:- That it’s totally okay to trust people. If they turned out to be bad ones it’s not because you were stupid enough to not see it but because you have a heart of gold… Too pure to not judge people or do wrong to them… And then when it backfires it’s a learning…. And the learning from this is not that you shouldn’t trust people easily from now onwards or be cautious, nope.. the learning is *”The Baggage”*. Someone who comes with a full baggage of garbage in it and not *Love, trust, friendship, consistency, loyalty, time, maturity etc etc* all these things which I mentioned is in your Baggage, you know what you have to do.

Never Stop looking up!!

Ohh and this one also 👇

Isn’t it great that we are 90’s kid. I mean we are the ones who have seen so many changes taking place. The greatest of them all is technology.

We have lived without mobiles and have lived with mobiles. At the same time it is so surprising that we all are addicted to these things.

Whatsapp, facebook, instagram has become so common, so basic like food. But we are of that age who can ignore it if wants to. But the coming generation will never know that not using these things is also an option. They will be born after these things became necessity. How surprising ans sad it is. Is it possible that we are also born uable to see the options. Are there any situations or things which we can ignore and which is of basic need.

Yes there are many. They are Marraige, Job with good package, the latest to our generations are electronics like television,Computers. Other things such as Car, bunglow, group of friends. Not a single friend but group of friends, which we call gangs. Isn’t it okay to have a single friend, only one friend with whom you do all the things. But i think having only one friend is so underrated. And what are these arrangements like marriage and jobs. Do i really need to get married in order to feel complete. Why can’t society teach me to be self sufficient, to find happiness inside me rather than getting married to just anyone. And then we will try our whole life to make things work, to understand them better.Why i need someone else to tell me that i am beautiful, why we need to someone else to appreciate ourselves. Because no one taught us that way and we never knew that this is also an option.

And what is this job thing, i understand we need money to buy food, shelter, clothes. But what if i don’t want to work?? Is there any option?? Nope there ain’t any or i don’t know that there exists an options to this also.

And why Cities are so over-rated. I mean look at villages we can live there too and breath fresh air, enjoy peace, calmness, serenity of nature. But for that we plan trips which we call i am enjoying life. First you live in a big city because that sounds cool, then you are doing a job which you don’t like but it pays you good and you can travel. And you travel to feel that peace, nature. Or maybe you travel to upload good pictures.And that’s how you sum up everything.

We just can’t see the options we have.

I am so worried about the coming generation. They are already fucked up because they will never know not using all these modern stuff is also an choice. Only if they are left with some brains they will avoid it but then they will be given the title wierd, psycho, freak, loner etc and yes that one also the one you thinking for me after reading this.

Keep shining, keep thinking!!

Ever gave it a thought?? Thinking and feeling, we might think different and feel different.

Yes, that is the route cause of all our problems. We say things we don’t feel, we do things we don’t feel anything about. We are just doing and saying and thinking without ever feeling it, because feeling things is melodramatic. And like who has the time to think and feel at the same time, many of us have never thought of that before. Right??

That’s why we are always confused and depressed, if we can align both thinking and feeling may be we can take better decisions.

Why some people perform far more better than others in there field?? Because for them doing a certain thing requires certain feeling , for example you cannot party when you are depressed, you just can’t. And when you do certain things with the exact emotion which it requires then you feel a sense of accomplishment. You can’t do most of the things when you don’t have confidence in yourself, you will fail at it miserably. Just because you have to do something doesn’t means you will do it with all your heart and then when you don’t get the results you wanted you feel sad, but have noticed you never wanted to do that thing in the first place and when you did it without any feeling you failed at it.

Let’s get this in another way, why do we like movies?? Because it aligns our thinking with our feelings. Why few movies are block buster?? Because they succeeded in aligning our thinking with feelings, the actors are so good at showing their emotions as in we can feel it. That is where our thoughts and feeling are aligned.

In simple terms do things with all your heart, which means the way you think and feel should be same.

Leaving the topic uncompleted as i am also confused and you all can tell me

I don’t know where we are heading with E – commerce. Internet has become one of the basic needs today. Online stores are increasing, and so is using of internet in mobile phones and laptops.

We are having cloud storage and i believe it has no limit. If it continues to go like this within 10 years there will be hardly any local store in urban areas. Cloth merchants, vegetable vendors and so on will be extinct, no matter how much they try being very small players they can’t get big share such as of myntra,flipkart etc . Even if they all join hands and start one common online store for common areas still beating the giants will be near to impossible.

All the big market players have already entered in e-commerce but in different fields and thereby expanding itself.

We all have started using e commerce for our own convenience, only those who are not well versed with these internet techniques go to the physical store. But in coming 10 years thanks to smartphones they will be doing all the shopping online.

And may be we will not have physical markets , except customer care centres.

As it will take 10 years to change everything on the other hand in 10 years are not enough to the strengthen the roots of developing economy. For example:-

1) On one hand India is struggling to give basic education to everyone – which is not gonna happen in next 20-30-40 years

On the other hand it is promoting Internet – earning/working on which requires higher qualification.

2) We are struggling for employment, and rate of unmployment is increasing with the increase in population

Also we are promoting e-commerce – A space for only entrepreneurs with huge capital investment which can give competition to Flipkart, Amazon, etc

3) Due to lack of jobs we are giving incentives for self employment

On the other hand we are giving e-commerce platforms to foreign companies such as Tik-Tok

There are other examples as well. What are we exactly promoting is still a dilemma, what will happen to all the local shops in the nation, what will happen to the job future of all the students of rural/village areas ?

Ours is is an developing economy ,we clearly cannot adopt e-commerce in the similar way as the developed countries have adopted.

E commerce is definitely doing good, but it would be beneficial in the long run only if its growth rate is matched with other economic issues and considering upcoming future problems.

And above all, the only threat we discuss in relation to E-commerce is security threat.

Open to listen to any solution,argument,or goverment policy.

Thanks & Regards

Worried Citizen of developing economy.

In the mood to write! I feel like writing when i am relaxed or at peace with myself. Today i don’t have any topic right now, but since i am relaxed i wanted to write something. So let’s talk about what makes you relax, (ps: i got the topic) is something like music or reading, or when you are with your friends or family? Or just alone in your room or with nature? Many of us not know that, right? Because many of us have never given a thought on that. But how will you calm yourself when you don’t even know what gives you peace. Who are the people after whom you feel drained out of your energy. Yes, you can feel that, never knowing exactly why you are feeling that but with some people you will feel this anxiety or like not enjoying, but have you ever felt fully relaxed? You must have.

And we need this ,every once in a while we need to be at peace with ourselves, time to analyze what’s making you feel that particular way. So that we could ignore those things. Many of us who are reading this are at the age of career building and settling. And that’s why it is important to start analyzing. Not every movie which releases can give you that relaxed feeling. Not every party not every person/friend/family member/place can make you feel the way you want to. We all are different and that’s why we all need different therapy and this absolutely cannot be considered as picky/choosy nature, who so ever thinks so.

If you want to achieve your goals (incase you have any) or want to live a happy life than you need to analyze. By the way what is happy life ? It might be travelling and uploading the pics on social media, or doing something new and uploading it on social media and waiting for likes and comments. Well the best moments never make it social media, they can if you are not present in that moment. Have you ever thought why many of the biggest Actors/Actresses are not on social media. ( Keanu Reeves is not 🙁)

Once you start analyzing you will be doing it regularly because you will be more happy than ever. You can start with like what’s that in the morning ahh wait the first thing you are doing in the morning is taking you phone and giving it 10-15-30 minutes, wait do you even leave you phone while having breakfast or other activities ? And all that you do is checking fb/insta/whatsapp. Don’t do this because the warrior in you is fighting all the battles alone and once its dead, you will never have the enthusiasm to do anything for yourself or your career and than you will pass the burden of your dreams on your children. Start analyzing your life, your current position may be you just settled with whatever you got, your dreams if they are yours or of someone else, your friends are they real friends or just bunch of people helping you to kill your time and the warrior within you. Cut yourself from everything that don’t add value or disturbs your inner peace

So if you want, relax, tomorrow is sunday, wake up early ( you won’t die , ) go for a walk in garden alone not with anyone, see the greenery, see the sunlight slowly spreading everywhere, take a deep breath (there is less pollution in the morning) you can do yoga or surya-namaskar. Come home have cup of tea/coffee/juice with good breakfast (you should have your breakfast within 2 hours after you wake up, don’t skip it) . And afterwards you can do anything you want. You can start analyzing

Once you start doing it on daily basis you will start having more ideas, more enthusiasm, less tiredness. The warrior in you will start over powering your thoughts of using phone, laying in bed and all other stuff which will lead you no where.

And the last one

Happy living 🌈

So what’s dangerous here is that we all are experiencing the same world with different feelings.

We see the world and understand it with our level of understanding, when infact it might be something else, something totally opposite to our opinion.

In simple way, some of you see dogs as the cutest creature, whereas i might not see them as same. Most of you like cloudy weather it makes you happy, whereas it makes me sad because it dims every colour, everything seems darker to me and hence i like the Sun shining.

In that way we like different governments, movies, food, people as well. And is it that, are we living in an illusion ? Smaller illusions like self love is selfish, judging people and not realizing it.

This is how it is, we might not seeing the world for real, with our assumptions we are seeing something different, something which is not true.

And this will continue until humanity reaches a point when its no longer able to take it. I hope its not too late then .

Illusion:-

We are human beings having spiritual experience

Can you take this rather

We are spiritual beings having human experience